Week 13 Day 4 – Who You Gonna Call?
1 Samuel 28:4-20; 30:1-31
When life throws difficult circumstances your way, where do you turn for wisdom and direction? Hopefully, as a follower of Jesus, your automatic answer to that question would be that you turn to God in prayer. You reach out to God for help. That’s good, but there is a second and deeper question. In what spirit do you reach out to God? Do you have in your mind what you want God to do, so, in approaching Him, you lay out a list of demands and say, "OK, God, this situation stinks and here’s what I think you should do about it." Unfortunately, too many times we slip into that mode. We probably do not consciously think in such brash terms, but deep down we really do have an agenda that we want God to follow.
In today’s readings we see this point illustrated in yet another heart contrast between Saul and David. Saul was faced with an oppressive enemy. He became afraid and cried out to God. You can read between the lines that he was crying out to God to deliver him from this enemy. But what did God do? How did He respond? God responded with silence. God did not give the answer that Saul had expected or desired. Up to this point Saul has done nothing wrong. Actually, he has done things right. He approached God with his request. Where he went wrong and exposed the true nature of his heart is what he did with God’s response. Saul rejected God’s response. He said, "I do not accept that response, so I am going to find another means of getting what I want." Saul’s desire to see his own will be done was so strong that it led him to violate not only God’s Laws, but his own laws as well. Saul had expelled the spiritual mediums out of the country. Now, he was consulting one himself. This was the final straw for Saul and his own inquiry into the realm of the paranormal prophesied his own imminent doom.
David, on the other hand, exposed a very different attitude. Imagine the feeling in David’s heart when he mounted the final rise and saw the smoldering ashes of what was once his home. In that moment a thousand thoughts of terror must have been racing through his mind. Where are my wives? Where are my children? Will I see their burned bodies impaled on a pike? Will the raiders return for more? Who did this? Why did this happen? Where was God when this happened?
For the typical warrior-type person, the first gut response to this travesty and heinous violation would have been to find out who had done this, hunt them down, and pay back blow for blow the violence they had perpetrated on your people. But not David. What was the first thing he did? He said, "Where’s the priest? I need to consult with God. Lord," he asked, "should I pursue the perpetrators, or is there something I am missing in this situation?" What is amazing about this is that the godly response to this event seems like it was so evident; he needed to go rescue his family. Yet, even in a situation that seemed like a no-brainer, David stopped and asked first.
Here is the heart of David. David saw himself as a servant of God. This village, and even his family, did not belong to him. Everything belonged to God and everything that was done needed to be done as a result of God’s direction and for His glory.
This point is further illustrated in the second part of the story. After David gets permission to pursue the perpetrators, and after he acquires all the plunder from their villages (which, in those days, was his rightful compensation for a victorious battle), look what he does with it. Does he say, "Now I have been repaid for what was taken from me? This is mine and is my just reward?" No. He says, "Hey everybody, look at the bounty that God has provided for us. Here, take some."
Here are a couple of quick observations about David’s heart. It would do us well to pattern our heart after this.
1. David’s heart was focused on God, not himself.
2. David’s concern was for his nation, his community, not himself.
3. David’s heart was a generous, giving, other-oriented heart.
The next time you are faced with a difficult situation, do a heart check. Are you approaching God with an agenda? If He doesn’t fulfill the expectations of your agenda, are you going to "take your ball and go home." In that moment, remember David. Remember that this situation, as bad as it may seem, is actually within the boundaries of God’s control. He has the agenda, not you. Come to Him with a receiving heart, ready to hear His plan, and then to obey no matter what it costs.
Week 13 Day 3 – Sweet Revenge?
1 Samuel 24:1-6; 25:32-34; 26:9-11
When someone cuts you off in traffic, what do you want to do? When you get passed over for a job that you worked hard to get and for which you were perfectly qualified, how do you feel? When someone hurts your child, what do you want to do?
Do you know why many movies are popular? They are popular because the bad guy gets it in the end. We love to see justice served. In the late 80’s Tom Selleck starred in a movie called An Innocent Man. A couple of crooked cops busted into his house by mistake, thinking that it was a drug house. They shot and wounded him in the process. Rather than admitting their mistake, they planted drugs in his house and arrested him. He was convicted and did hard time in prison. It was difficult to watch this movie because he did not deserve the terrible things that happened to him in prison. When he was released he found those crooked cops and "set the record straight" on their heads.
The crowd cheered with every blow he railed on the heads of those wicked men. Why? Because, in our natural selves, we demand vengeance! We can’t stand injustice. This fact makes today’s lesson a very difficult pill to swallow. Why would it have been wrong for David to kill Saul in the cave? Why would it have been wrong for David to teach Nabal a lesson? Why would it have been wrong for the spear to have been thrust through Saul’s body? After all, hadn’t David already been anointed as king? Wasn’t it just a matter of time before he would take Saul’s place anyway? Wouldn’t killing Saul just speed up the process and help God out?
There are two reasons why it would have been wrong for David to have done these things and why it would be wrong for us to seek vengeance:
- Repaying evil for evil makes you evil. Had David wreaked havoc on Nabal’s estate, how would it have been any different from Nabal.
- It’s a matter of control. The motive behind vengeance is to make someone pay for what they have taken from us. We want the perpetrator to suffer so that we can regain control over the things that were taken away from us. Here’s the problem. Nothing really belongs to us. We don’t even belong to ourselves. Everything is God’s. There is only one person in the universe that has the right to be upset with people who take things away—God. Why do we get upset when someone cuts us off in traffic? Because we believe that it is our space. Why are we upset when someone hurts our child? Because we think it is our child. Wrong. Our space, our children, our reputation, our money, all of it belongs to God. If God wants to pay someone back for doing something to His stuff that is in your care, then that is His prerogative. But, if He doesn’t, then He doesn’t have to.
Who are you mad at today? With whom do you have a serious bone to pick? How much energy are you spending on this issue? If you do "get back" at that person, will it really make things better? Will hurting that person’s reputation really restore yours? Will chopping that guys head off really bring back your child? Let it go. God knows the situation. He will settle the real score, in His time. Take all that energy and focus it on deepening your relationship with God. Let His Spirit fill you up and wash out all that bitterness and vengeful feeling. When you start letting go of this and letting God fill you up, then you will begin to realize what Jesus meant when He instructed His followers to love their enemies and pray for those who persecute them. We can be like David and say,
"Far be it from me to hurt God’s anointed. It is God’s Kingdom, and when He wants me to take the throne, then I will, but I will never force my own hand."
Week 13 Day 2 – Friendship or Fear?
1 Samuel 18:1-16; 20:1-42
Imagine that you are the CEO of a company. You enjoy the power and the perks of being at the top. Then along comes a young recruit who is rising quickly up the ranks of the company. You start hearing his name mentioned quite often at the water cooler. More than one of the V.P.’s has mentioned his name in their reports. The scuttlebutt is that some of the board of directors have actually taken this young man to lunch and have used the phrase "a shooting star," and "heir apparent." How do you feel? What is your attitude toward this person? Is he a threat that must be eliminated, or is he possibly the best man for the job, even if it costs you yours?
That is similar to the position Saul was in. Saul was king. He was supposed to get all the praise and honor from the people. How dare this ruddy little shepherd boy steal his thunder? It makes sense to us why Saul would be so upset with David. Saul was an arrogant guy who loved power, thought he was above the Law, and wasn’t about to let anyone take anything from him.
The truly surprising element of this story is Jonathan. If anyone should have been threatened by David it should have been Jonathan. Saul was an old guy. There was plenty of room for Saul to be king, and then to let David be king after he was gone. If anyone was getting bumped from the throne of Israel by David it was Jonathan, because he was the rightful heir to Saul’s throne. With David on the throne, Jonathan would be out. In most cultures Jonathan would have been in danger of being killed by the usurping king. Yet, in light of this serious threat, Jonathan loved David with all his heart. Once again, by observing the heart of Jonathan, we have a contrast to the heart of Saul.
Here are some observations about the friendship between Jonathan and David that may help us understand what true friendship should look like in the kingdom of God:
- It wasn’t natural. As we have already mentioned, Jonathan and David, by all natural standards, should have hated each other. Many times we think that our friendships have to sneak up on us and come from our natural surroundings. The truth is that sometimes the richest friendships come from “the other side of the tracks.” When this happens, we know that the friendship is rooted in the love of God and not our natural tendencies.
- It required a “Kingdom Perspective." The greatest killer of friendships is the beast of envy. Too many times we evaluate someone by “how they make me look.” If I hang out with that person, will their pretty smile make me look plain? Will her skinny waist make me look fat? Will his outgoing personality make me look boring? Will his ability to communicate draw others to him instead of me? Jonathan could have easily fallen into this trap. Instead, Jonathan took a “Kingdom perspective.” The attitude that we should take when we approach people is, “this is GOD’S Kingdom, we are all parts of HIS body, HE will use whomever HE chooses for HIS purpose. We are all equal and there is no competition.” When we can die to the competition between us, and learn to value the good in each person, then we will be able to experience friendship that is deep and rich.
- It involved commitment. We all know that the key to success in marriage is commitment. When emotions come and go, it is the covenant between a man and a woman that keeps the relationship together. That is a no-brainer in marriage, but have we ever applied that principle to friendship? Jonathan and David made a covenant with each other to be friends to the end. That sounds strange to our ears. The tendency in our culture is to be “fair-weather” friends. We love to hang around you when you are fun and happy, and, more importantly, when we can get something out of you, but as soon as you start getting depressed, or tragedy strikes your life, or you start getting a little freaky, then we are out of here. That is not biblical friendship. Biblical friendship is the core of community. Biblical friendship should be built upon a mutual commitment to be united in the love of Christ and to work together for the common good of the community.
Meditate on these verses regarding friendship:
Proverbs 18:24
Proverbs 27:10
John 15:14-15
How good of a friend are you today? Are you using friendships to get something out of the other person, or are you committed to a friend for that person’s own good?
Week 13 Day 1 – A Tale of Two Hearts
1 Samuel 15:1-35; 17:1-58
As with all good stories, the early scenes set the stage for what is to come. In these two chapters we get to peek into the heart of the two main characters in this drama. On the one hand we see Saul, the current king of Israel. On the other hand we see David; a simple shepherd boy who will one day be king. By placing these two stories side by side we can see how the trajectories of each man’s journey has been set.
The heart of the matter is just that...the heart. Later on, David would write the words of Psalm 42:1, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” In these two stories we see that what was in the heart of each man is what overflowed and set their destinies.
In chapter 15 we see that Saul’s heart was filled with himself. Previously, back in chapter 13, we saw that Saul had a hard time following directions. In that chapter he became impatient with Samuel and made the sacrifice for the battle by himself, thus violating God’s Law. In this chapter we see Saul thinking that he didn’t have to obey God’s instructions exactly. God had told him to completely wipe out the Amalekites (cleaning up after Joshua’s unfinished business). Instead, Saul saved the really good stuff.
Saul made two fatal mistakes:
1. He did a right thing for the wrong reasons. Saul claimed that he saved the best of the booty so that he could sacrifice it to God. That sounds really spiritual. After all, didn’t God demand that the Israelites bring the first fruits of everything to God? Wasn’t it noble of Saul to think about God in that way? No. It wasn’t. It was disobedient.
Many times we can do things that seem really “good,” but the reasons we are doing them are very distorted. If we do “good” things so that others will notice and recognize how spiritual or holy we are, then we have just made that good thing into a sinful thing. Samuel summarized very well how God feels about this in vv. 22 when he said, “to obey is better than sacrifice.”
2. He shifted blame when he was caught. Saul got caught in our society’s favorite pastime: the Blame Game. Truly, the passing of the buck is one of the most fundamental elements of the sinful human nature. It is the first effect that disobedience had on human nature. When Adam was accused of eating the forbidden fruit, the first thing he did was point a big, fat finger at “the woman you gave me.” Not only was he blaming Eve, he was blaming God for giving the temptress to him!
Isn’t that the logic we use all the time? “If you hadn’t invited me out to dinner, I would have never ordered that gigantic dessert and eaten it all myself.” “If you hadn’t sold me the gun, I would have never shot that guy.” “It’s your fault I burned myself; you didn’t tell me the coffee was hot!”
It is one thing to commit a sin. It is a far worse offense to deny the sin and try to shift the blame. Had Saul simply humbled himself, admitted that he had messed up, and asked God to forgive him, then perhaps things would have been different. Notice that at the end of the chapter he does try to repent. God did not believe him, however, because Saul was not sorry that he had disobeyed. He was sorry that he was going to lose the throne. There is a big difference.
When the young shepherd boy steps into the picture we see a very different situation. In chapter 17 we read one of the most famous stories of all time. A young teenage shepherd, armed only with a slingshot, brings down the best fighting machine that the Philistines had to offer.
Why was David able to defeat this giant? What made David different than Saul?
1. He had proper humility. Humility is a very misunderstood word. When you read David’s words in vv.24-37 it appears that he is a cocky little guy. “I killed the bear, and I killed the lion. Look how great I am!” But wait a minute. Is that really what he said? Yes, David did say, “I killed the lion and the bear,” but he finished by saying, “the Lord who delivered me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine.” Humility is not saying that you can’t do anything. Humility is being bold enough to speak truthfully about the gifts that God has given you, giving credit to Him, and not being afraid to use them.
2. He knew the source of his strength. The key to David’s success was his authentic proclamation, “I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty!” The key to a successful life in the Kingdom of God is to always remember that your heart is a conduit for God’s work to be done. As soon as you think you have the strength and ability to do what you think is right, then you will become like Saul and get hardening of the spiritual arteries, a blockage, and have a spiritual cardiac arrest. We must always have David’s attitude and remember that the battle is God’s. If God has truly asked you to do something, then you need to do it, keep your heart open, and let God do His mighty work through you.
Throughout the rest of this week we will see that David’s heart continues to grow for God and Saul’s heart continues to shrivel. As you read through the daily readings, keep a mental (or even an actual) comparison chart between Saul and David. Ask yourself, “what made David a man after God’s own heart (1 Samuel 13:14)?”
Week 12 Day 5 – The More Things Change, the More They Stay the Same
1 Samuel 12:1-25
In this chapter we encounter the third great farewell speech in the Old Testament. The history of Israel and its shifts from era to era seem to be punctuated by these speeches. As the nation shifted from the era of the patriarchs and slavery into the era of conquest in the Promised Land, Moses stood up before them and proclaimed, "I set before you life and death...choose life!" After the dust settled from the conquest of the land and the nation was moving into a system of theocracy, God’s ideal form of government, Joshua stood up before the throngs and said, "Choose this day whom you will serve. As for me and my house we will serve the Lord." Now, in today’s reading, after a radical societal shift from a theocracy to a monarchy, we see Samuel place before the people a choice of living and walking in the ways of God or persisting in evil. The former will lead to life and the latter will lead to death.
Do you see a common theme here? We need to read between the lines a bit when we listen to Samuel’s speech. Was Samuel happy about the people’s choice to have a King? No. Was God happy about it? No. It seems that Samuel is saying (allow me to paraphrase) "guys, listen. Now that you have a king you think everything will be fine. You’re wrong. Nothing has changed. From the beginning God has wanted one thing...your heart. He wants you to fear Him, to love Him, and to serve Him with all your heart. Nothing less. Had you done this from the beginning we wouldn’t be having this discussion. Yet, you haven’t and now here we stand with a king on our hands. Hear this. The rules haven’t changed. Now you just have two layers of responsibility to deal with. Not only do you have to follow God, but you also have to hope and pray that your king follows God as well. Because if he doesn’t...oh boy...are you in for a world of hurt. Bottom line...if everyone keeps their eyes and hearts on God, then this whole thing will work out great. If you or your king gets distracted by the nonsense that is going on around you, then it will be lights out for the whole party. Enough said."
In our lives the same is true. We have all made really stupid choices and we are stuck with the consequences of those choices. We may have brain damage from taking drugs. We may be in prison because we killed someone. We may have blended families and hurting children because we got divorced. Were these things God’s perfect desire for us? No. Will God take these consequences away? No. Will the pain and ripple effect of these consequences cease? Probably not. Is all hope lost? No. God can and will work through the mess that we have created and bring something redemptive out of it. The only way that will happen, however, is if we get back to the simple game plan. We must fear the Lord, we must love Him with all our heart, and we must run away as fast as we can from the sin that brought about these consequences in the first place. We must surrender our heart to Jesus, every day. Then, God will come in and work with the "king" that you asked Him to place in your life.
He can work with faulty church systems (because 100% of church systems have some level of human corruption within them, be sure of that) and bring blessings through them in spite of the dysfunction. He can take an illegitimate child and use him to transform the world for His kingdom. He can take a damaged drug-addict and make her a shining beacon of God’s grace, forgiveness, and redemption.
Let’s never forget that changing the "what" of our lives without changing the "how" of our lives is not going to make the difference. Changing the "do" without changing the "be" is like rearranging the deck chairs on the sinking Titanic. What difference is it going to make?
Let’s pray for a heart that is surrendered to Jesus and let Him handle the rearranging of our life, our family, our church, and our society.
Week 12 Day 4 – It’s Not You They Rejected
1 Samuel 8:1-22
What a slap in the face this must have been for Samuel and for the Lord! Try to put yourself in the Lord’s perspective here (I realize this is an absurdity to even attempt to see from God’s perspective, but work with me on this). From the day you brought these people out of slavery in Egypt you have promised to go out before them, to govern them, and to defeat their enemies for them. Not only have you promised to do it, you have delivered it time and time again. Did they drown the mighty Egyptian army in the sea? Did they have to tear down the walls of Jericho? Did they hurl hailstones at the Gibeonites? Did those 300 men slay the Midianites with torches and trumpet blasts?
After all that God had done for the Israelites, imagine how He must have felt to hear them say that the king would, “lead us and go out before us and fight our battles” If I were God I would have said, “Hello! What am I, chopped liver?” Fortunately I am not God (a resounding Amen comes from the congregation!) and His ways are higher than my ways.
Here are some observations and lessons from this passage:
- It was inevitable for the people to request a king. As we saw in Monday’s devotional, the people had taken their eyes off of God for so long, and their common values had become so diluted and syncretistic, that they had to defer to a centralizing, human ruler to bring peace to their society.
- Their focus was so deeply based in human, physical reality, that they could not even see the Kingdom of God at work in them. The reality of God’s hand in their history made no impact on their practical life. They were so focused on their bellies and their survival that they could not see the spiritual reality of the covenant relationship that they had with God.
- Their spiritual blindness had created such tunnel vision that they were willing to reject the sound reasoning that God offered them when he spelled out the consequences that would come from choosing a human king. So many times, when people feel that they are backed into what appears to be a desperate situation they are willing to betray reason and their own conscience just to get out of it. The old saying goes, “desperate times call for desperate measures.” Spouses who feel trapped in an impossible marriage will have an affair, sabotage the relationship, or just plain run away from it, rationalizing that “it was so bad, I had to do it.” People who are on the brink of a financial crises will cheat on their taxes or “fudge the numbers” to make ends meet. People whose lives are literally being threatened will kill in order to save their own life. In human logic this makes sense. The question is, “are there really any desperate times in the Kingdom of God?” Or we could poise the question this way, “by what standard are we measuring desperation?” Is self-protection really the rationalization we need to justify sinful behavior? If so, what did Jesus mean when he said we are to turn the other cheek, go the extra mile, and pray for those who persecute us rather than repaying evil with evil?
- In spite of their short-sighted choices, God was gracious to them. One of the recurring themes we can observe in God’s relationship with His covenant people is that He continually gives them a lot of rope. Was it right for them to want a king? No. Was having a king going to make their situation better? No. The right answer to their problem would have been to repent from their ways, reconnect to the heart of God, and allow Him to be their spiritual King. He would, through their surrendered heart, overflow into the physical reality of their existence and bring true peace to their society. Yet, that is not what they requested from God. So, God gave them what they asked for. He allowed them to have a king and worked with them within the parameters of that mixed up situation.
Did he remove their consequences? No. The nation suffered terribly for having chosen a king. All the warnings that He gave them came true in the centuries to follow. Did He abandon them? Never.
The point for today is, “Be careful what you ask for, because you just might get it.” God does have a simple plan and will for our lives. He wants our surrendered heart to do with what He will. He wants us to live in His Kingdom and serve Him as King. Yet, the battle between our kingdom and His Kingdom still rages on in our hearts. Let’s learn from the poor choices of the Israelites. Let’s not look around at the “Jones’” and see all the cool stuff that the “other guys” are doing. Let’s not fall into the trap of comparing our lives and our church to others and asking God to make us “like that guy”. God does not grade on a curve. He looks at each heart and deals with it based upon the truth of His kingdom.
Let’s spend some time today and ask God to release us from any of the distractions that we may be facing from someone else’s king and get our eyes focused on Him.
Week 12 Day 3 – A Faithful Mother, A Negligent Father
1 Samuel 1:1-2:36; 1 Samuel 4:1-22
Here are some observations about why Hannah seems more honorable than Eli.
She obeyed the Law regarding the redemption of the firstborn. (Exodus 13:13-15; 34:20; Numbers 3:46; 18:15-17) In the Law of Moses, since God had taken the firstborn of every household in Egypt, the Lord required that the people of Israel give their firstborn to Him. The firstborn son was to be dedicated to the Lord, given completely over to Him. He did mean this literally, but He also made a provision for the people to "cash out" on the commitment. A monetary value was placed on the life of the firstborn child, and a family could opt to "redeem" the child and give the money to the house of the Lord rather than the child.
There are many reasons why this law was created, some of which we probably don’t understand. One reason it was created was to provide an analogy for the redemption that God gives us through Jesus Christ. God redeemed us, or bought us out of sin, with the blood of Jesus.
Another reason, and probably the deeper and more immediate reason, was to give the Israelites an opportunity to actualize and demonstrate their total commitment to the Lord. Remember, God is not messing around; He wants the best of all that we have. He wants the firstborn of our lives, not the left-overs. In our culture this is true, but especially in the ancient world the firstborn son was everything to a family. The firstborn son received the inheritance of the father and carried the family name on into the next generation. By offering your firstborn to the Lord you were literally saying, "Lord, you own everything I have."
God still asks us for our firstborn, even if we don’t have a physical child. He wants the firstborn ambitions, the firstborn fruit; He wants the best of all that you have. Too many times we tend to give the best of what we have to the taskmasters of the world who don’t love us, don’t care for us, but give us money to put food on the table. We give the world our best, and then drag our weary self into the presence of God...if we feel like it. We don’t give God the first because we are afraid that if we give it to Him, then we won’t have enough to pay the bills and meet our commitments at work and in the world. God promises us that if we will trust Him enough to give Him the first of what we have, that He will more than take care of the rest.
In Hannah’s day it is most likely that the people of Israel had abandoned the law of bringing their firstborn to the Lord. If they did follow that Law, they probably opted to throw some money at it and get their child back. While cashing in or redeeming the child was acceptable according to God’s Law, it leaves room for outward behavior to exist without a transformed inward attitude. In the same way it is very easy for us to go through the right motions (giving a tithe, coming to church, serving in a ministry, etc.) but still have an unsurrendered heart. Hannah wasn’t like that. She didn’t just follow the letter of the Law, she actually did the Law. She gave Samuel to the Lord and handed him over to Eli to serve in the Tabernacle. Wow! It must have been a difficult step for Hannah, yet she did it in faith. Her simple and bold faith changed the course of life. It changed her life and the life of the nation. Because of her faithfulness God opened her womb and she had many more children. Because of her faithfulness the nation of Israel was given the man named Samuel who would guide them into the next phase of their existence.
Her parenting was God focused, Eli’s was child and self-focused. Eli made the tragic mistake that most parents fall into. He looked out for the best interest of his children over and above the best interest of God. Too many times we become child-centered and want our kids to be happy all the time. Unfortunately this becomes true in how we train our kids about God. We want our children to love God so much that we can fall into the temptation to always present the "happy and fun" God to them. We never want church to be boring, so we cart them off to their own church service where they can have fun the whole time. We don’t want them to have to sit still in church because that might turn them off and they will grow up and turn away from God.
Unwittingly, by creating this environment of constant entertainment and "fun" for our children, we are actually teaching them the opposite message that we intend. Rather than teaching them that God is fun and cool, we are teaching them that God exists to entertain them. We are teaching them that every impulsive desire of their hearts is something that demands attention. We are teaching them that God is their servant.
Children (young and old alike) are basically self-focused. When we have a need or a desire, we cry and whine until we get it. Part of the transformation that must take place in every person’s heart is that of focus. We must focus our attention and fixation away from self and onto God. In so doing we will become "other-oriented" and will be able to actually love God and love our neighbor. If we always got what we wanted, when we wanted it, then we would never have to realize that we are not the center of the universe.
Eli made this mistake. He trained his boys that their position in the temple was self-focused. In the Law of Moses God told Aaron that the offerings given at the Tabernacle belonged to the priests. It was their sustenance, to support their service of God and the people. Eli and his son’s distorted this truth and manipulated into believing that they deserved the choice pieces of the sacrifice, that it was owed to them, and that their position as priest gave them authority in the lives of the "common man" to use and abuse as they saw fit.
Hannah, on the other hand, trained her son that service to God, for God’s sake is the mode in which we should operate. She did not look to meet her own needs first, but kept God’s Law at the forefront of her mind and her behavior toward her child.
As parents in our current youth-centric, over-stimulated, must-be-entertained-at-every-moment, can’t-sit-still culture, perhaps we could make some effort to teach our children the discipline of waiting. We can teach them that it is OK to sit and listen to an adult talk during worship time. It is OK to politely allow someone to express themselves in a way that may not be interesting or even make sense to you, and that you, out of sheer respect for others, should pay attention and show respect.
Am I saying that we should intentionally make church boring to "teach our selfish kid’s a lesson?" No. Should we never do wild and crazy kid-oriented stuff in worship? Of course not. Should our worship space be dull and lifeless? No way. I’m not saying that. All I’m saying is that, as parents and spiritual aunts and uncles in our church communities, we need to make sure that we find practical ways to teach our children that God’s desires and the needs of others take priority in the life of a Christian. No human being is the center of the universe. God is the center and we all, equally and mutually, orbit around Him.

